Pierrette Mulumba
Meeting new people can be an awkward experience. And so are first dates. There’s a huge cloud of what if hanging over the two of you whilst you try to enjoy whatever it is people enjoy these day. Luckily for you, we have a few tips on how you can handle those first date jitters to the point where you’ll decide if there’s a second date.
You don’t look like your picture
In 2017, most first dates are birthed from Instagram likes and Tinder swipes. If this is how you navigate the dating world, make sure your picture is actually YOUR picture. There’s nothing wrong with using a pretty picture of yourself but make sure that you actually look like that and not when your date closes one eye and tilts his head to the left.
Where do you wanna go?
Doing an activity or going to the local bar is usually a great place for a first date. Dinner dates need enough topics of conversation. If there isn’t, prepare for the awkward silences.
You realize you have to eat and breathe and well.. Live right?
Looking good is obviously important as first impressions matter. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to squeeze into something you haven’t worn in years. Being uncomfortable in your clothes isn’t going to ease any nerves you may have.
Dinner etiquette
It doesn’t hurt to arrive on time. Fashionably late sounds like a great Instagram caption but it need not be applied in real life. Showing up late, without good reason and prior warning, is disrespectful. Besides- would you like your date to do the same? You’re not obliged to go out with the person again but while you’re on the date, practice active listening and switch off your damn phone. You’ll read all about the next pregnant Kardashian once the date’s done. Your timeline will survive without you for a couple of hours.
Know your position and limit your info
Your date doesn’t need to know about your witch-like aunt or sociopathic sister. Try not to overindulge the details of your diary on the first date. Furthermore; your date needs to be aware about how far you’re willing to go on the first date.
You’re allowed to leave if they’re creepy
There are some weird people out there. Don’t sit through two hours of uncomfortable leering just because you want to be polite. It’s perfectly fine if you cut a date short but don’t be rude about it.
Handle your liquor
Having to deal with an intoxicated person that you barely know is not a good time. Not suggesting that you go Mormon but know your limits.
Cheque please
If he offers to pay, let him pay. There’s no need for you to recite Chichimanda Adichie. Furthermore, if you offer to pay half, you actually have to pay half. There’s no need for you to say it just to test him. There’s no need for mind games on a first date.
You can text first
Texting after the date shows that you’re interested and you weren’t just looking for a meal out. If they’re not interested; prepare for the blue ticks. If there are-then the ball’s in your court.
However, be careful not to jump onto social media liking all her posts from two years ago or trolling her ex’s posts.
