The media bombards us with the epitome of beauty; the Kardashians appear to be the guide through our social media. They design every Instagram picture, video to evoke envy from fanatics; to yearn for the impossible beauty standards. Flawless skin, 0 size – waist, and the big butts. The money; the man and the list is endless.
You look at your life and think; “why can’t I look like that?”. It never dawns on you that these people are human beings with the same struggles as any other person. But then again, the facade that continues to perpetrate in the “forever happy” moments with friends and family through social media; it has become easy to accept the illusion.
First, how do you compare yourself with someone with 100 million – followers from all over the world?
Although, you realize that even wealth, beauty and stardom do not come packaged with high – self-esteem. When you are in the public eye most of the time, you are more vulnerable and at a high risk of a low self – esteem. With Facebook updates and Instagram comments, people see the need to express; they have a mouthful to share and most of it is pessimistic. Hence the importance of learning the traits of what might lead to a low self-esteem from the early stages and prevent it from causing you depression.
When you hear the name – Kim Kardashian what goes through your mind; well that is a very controversial name, so there are a lot that surfaces. But one thing we can agree upon is her obsession with her appearance. It’s all about presentation with her, “perfection” for the world. We do not juxtapose people who appear to be “perfect” – with people suffering from a low self- esteem. She seems to exude confidence, right?
Have you ever experienced a day in your life where you wore the best outfit, makeup on sleek, arched eyebrows, and everyone thought you look outstanding? But deep down you did not feel beautiful enough. You kept on looking at others and thought to yourself; if I looked like her, then life would be better. Do you see what I mean? You can give people an illusion; we judge based on external factors and forget what happens on the inside.
Let’s look at it this way, if we are wrong and Kim K is a confident person; why is she always altering her appearance, trying her utmost best to be “perfect,” (whatever that means?) She always dresses in the most seductive clothing; sometimes nude, uploading these images to the world to receive feedback. When you upload your images on social media, you are sourcing out feedback on how glorious you look. Looking for others to brush your ego, scouting for validation and the approval of others.
I understand, we need to take care of ourselves, and I always encourage improvement. Although, we need to remember; a thin line lies between enhancing what you have and pushing yourself because you seek validation . When you are sure of who you are; you don’t strive to prove to others you look good. You decide what you will perceive as good, regardless of what others say or think.
Then we have our second Kardashian sister if you have watched the reality show, you know how severe her low self-esteem has been throughout the years. Her sisters, Kim K shadowed her, she has admitted to having a low self-esteem and had trouble showing her body for sexy – photo shoots. This is mind-blowing, for someone who appears to have it all.
I mean when she updates her photos; her fans are always praising her on how beautiful she is, why then is she still self-conscious? It goes to show how you can have the fame, money; the lifestyle and still not feel good concerning yourself.
We cannot dispute; being in front of the camera has its pros and cons. There is pressure, expectation for you to act a certain way; to appear a certain way. People have ridiculous expectations, they themselves cannot live out. She is beautiful, not like anyone else but just the way she is; similar to her we struggle each day to accept ourselves because we compare how we look like with the next person. The label “ugly” is not her truth; people have a distorted perspective of beauty.
Oh, my goodness, such an affliction placed on the young Jenner; self – esteem problems, you don’t have to be a rocket scientist for you to pay attention. They have esteemed her as the youngest billionaire; had her lips done – inflated; she shares similar curves with her older sister Kim K (rumor says they are artificial; instant curves).
She always has heavy makeup. Her goal is to be perfect for the fans, for them to aspire to be her. She runs her own business which should give her ample confidence and has relevance in her celebrity status. What more could you want from the world? With all that material wealth; enhancement done, still, she struggles with self -acceptance. Is it worth it?
Behind the money, the lips, half-naked pictures is a young girl who wants to be valued. She is only 21 years young. Hard to believe. So much enhancement done, you could think she is older than her age. The alarming notion is how teenagers look up to her as the epitome of beauty, crazy. The daily struggle of these teenagers trying to meet the impossible standards of beauty and falling into depression is destroying their self-esteem.
We are under the illusion, believing she has confidence while she is struggling herself. I mean, why does she go through so much for a picture on Instagram? When you look at her younger self-compared to her latest images; It leaves you in total amazement. She does not resemble a person who is confident, rather, someone with a low self-esteem trying so hard to convince the world she is confident.
Learn the art of falling in love with yourself; appreciate your peculiar traits. They created you with a purpose; for a purpose. You add value to the world. Let no one tell you, you are not beautiful or good enough because you don’t fit societal standards. What you think of yourself is far more important than the opinions of others. No one, not even your idle, the celebrity, should ever make you feel you are not beautiful or worth it.